I knew marriage wouldn't be different just because of a sheet of paper

But sometimes I just want to be dated, treated like we are still just dating.

Like theres still something to lose.

As in, planned dates (not by me)

Surprising me with flowers, jewelry, anything?

Offering to massage my back without me asking

etc.

I'll admit I got caught up in the "romanticized relationship"

That probably doesn't exist in real life

Which is why it was perfect timing for me to find this article:

"The Real Truth About Boring Men"

I cried.

The ENTIRE time.

How selfish of me to think that every time Robert took out the trash

And every time he cleaned up the dishes from dinner

or made me dinner

Or rubbed my feet

Or went to a store he didn't want to

wasn't romance.

My favorite quote was:

"There are Fridays. And the quiet romantics who will take out the garbage without fanfare. There will be the unimaginative calendar by the fridge, with all it’s scribbled squares of two lives being made one. The toilet seat will be left predictably up. The sink will be resigned to its load of last night’s dishes."

The toilet seat will always be left up

That doesn't mean my husband doesn't love me

Or that he's doing it to be spiteful.

It means he's a man.

And it happens.

Love isn't youtube proposal videos with a million likes

Its the day to day "boring" life

And still being in love

And still wanting to be there to carry them from the tub and pull up their depends.

Cheers to that.